Month: May 2016

Believe That All Things are Possible

Faith begins by believing, hoping, and yes even by a dream.  Martin Luther King said, “I have a dream.”  You and I have seen his dream unfold over the past several years.   His dream cost bloodshed, hard work, disappointments, letting go, and holding on.

Mother Theresa too had a vision for the poorest of the poor.  Her vision caused divisions, ridicule, hard work, sacrifice, compassion, extreme dedication, separation, loneliness, and a tenacious spirit that refused to doubt and was determined to believe that all things are possible to the one who believes.

Jesus said, “all things are possible to him who believes,” and He was speaking of believing for those things God wants and predestines for us (His people). God put a dream in Martin Luther King for his people, and he led a crusade that made that dream a reality.  God put a vision in Mother Theresa for the poorest of the poor.  And, through her life, the impossible became the history we now know.   One dream, one vision, one man, one woman, and one God the author of those inspiring words have drove many to accomplish the unthinkable, the unbelievable and the impossible.

Whatever situation, or dream, or prayer you have, you must first ask, “Is this God’s dream to work through me?”  It is your purpose on this earth to pursue and fulfill God’s desire and dream for mankind.

He has a miracle to birth through you, and that is why you must never give up, never quit, and never, never let go of one of the greatest promises made to man.   “All things are possible to him who believes.”

Need help finding God’s dream for you? That’s where a life coach can help.

Easy Faith vs. Hard Faith

What in the world is easy faith? And does that mean there is a hard faith?

You wake up, you dress, shower, grab your coffee, juice in hand, read a little, say prayer – it’s like any other day. You’re off to a good start right?

When our sun is shining bright, it’s easy to believe and give advice like “just trust God, it’ll all work out, we’ll pray for you,” yada, yada, yada. You could write another self help book on ways for them to survive amidst their storm.

But then, the wind changes and you find yourself in your own hurricane. Sickness ravishes through a loved ones body, bills outweigh your income, a child takes the wrong road (at least in your eyes). The house of cards begins to shake along with the faith you built your life upon.

It’s hard trust now and it’s getting really scary. You’ve lost control, it’s out of your hands, you feel helpless, naked in your own Gethsemane, and facing the greatest test you will ever take – the test of your faith. Is your faith real or not?

We ask God, “Why do you take me to edge of the cliff and leave me?”

But why do we ask that kind of question? Does He not tell you that you are as safe there as you were when your sun was shining? What makes the faith barometer drop so rapidly from easy to hard?

If you haven’t experienced this, sometime in your life – you will! Is it the situation? Or is it our reaction of fear, doubt, anger, resentment, or our lack of trust that makes easy faith turn into hard faith?

It is not the storms in our lives that make us strong and wise. It is our willingness to allow the storm to teach us. They can teach us about humility, that we were wrong probably more times than we were right, how to love the unlovable, and probably most important, how to listen. It is then that a whole new dimension of faith begins to emerge in our spirit.

The storm destroys the “Hard vs. Easy” barometer, leaving a genuine faith that has been proved unmovable, incomparable, and unchangeable. Yes, even at the cliff, because that is where faith is really tested.

Pathway to Wisdom is committed to helping you grow in wisdom and become strong in your faith and in your love for God and for all His children. It is your calling, and we can help you get there.

Wise Men Pray, Only Fools Rush In

At age 21 and with no experience, Solomon is crowned King of Israel.  In today’s world Solomon would have to be college educated, serve in a government position and win several debates to prove himself capable of leading a nation. Solomon’s resume wouldn’t even get him to the primary’s.

But where human eyes see inadequacies, God sees potential.

Rodin's "The Thinker" as photgraphed by mharrsch on flickr.comDeep calling to Deep – Solomon desired wisdom more than anything because he knew, that he would be a fool to try and lead a nation without God’s wisdom. The wisdom he chose that day shook the nation, shook the world, and is still shaking and changing lives today. We have all been affected by the wisdom God gave Solomon.

And now it is our day to choose.  What do you desire more than anything? If God said I would give you anything you want – what would you ask for?  What deep in you would call out to the Deep in God?   Oh by the way, Solomon gives you a little hint in Proverbs 10:8 (NIV) “The wise in heart accept commands, but a chattering fool comes to ruin.”   I think he is trying to tell us that wise men pray for wisdom and fools rush in and make bad decisions.

What area of your life do you find yourself needing wisdom, and what are you doing to find it?

“The Happiness Now is Part of the Pain Later – That’s the Deal”

A Leaf in Autumn     In the movie Shadowlands, Joy, who is in remission from cancer, says to her husband C.S. Lewis, “the happiness now is part of the pain later and that’s the deal.”

How do we make sense out of losing a loved one, going through a divorce, watching a child go astray, losing a job, or discovering we have an incurable disease? Tragedy often opens the door to a dialog of questions directed at God. Why would you take the life of my son, a father, a husband and a brother in the prime of his life? Why didn’t you heal him? I believed you would.

When I went through tragedy, these were some of the questions I asked God. The tragedy numbed my mind, and it has taken years to heal my wounded heart.   But, Job’s insight was a great help to me.

When Job lost everything but his life in a test between God and Satan, he questioned the justice of God. Why would God allow this tragedy when he had lived such a righteous life?   Well-meaning friends gladly offered their two cents as they scrutinized, analyzed and even diagnosed the reasons behind Job’s pain. Tired of their judging and babbling, Job resigns himself to present his case before God. God listens to Job’s reasoning.

In fact, he was asking the very same questions we all ask. Why does it seem like good men suffer instead of evil men? Why are good things robbed from good people while evil people thrive?   God’s longest speech recorded in the Bible (Job 38 – 41) was directed to answering Job, and to us who have suffered great tragedies.

In the midst of answering Job, God asked him a question, and consequently, one that He also asks us. In chapter 40:8 – 9 God asks, “Would you discredit my justice? Would you condemn me to justify yourself?”   Job must have felt like a dry leaf in a burning forest. He was in the middle of a debate with the Master of the Universe, Creator of all creation. The fact is, Job did not understand the why behind the test, nor did he ever know that it was a test and we may never know either.   After God assured Job of his power and might, wisdom and love, Job covered his mouth — the whys were no longer important or needed. The wisdom we glean here is that – real faith does not depend upon the blessings of God or fall to our accusations of God’s Divine Providence.   Real faith must rest completely on God’s undeniable Sovereignty and His unquestionable wisdom, knowing that the happiness that we enjoy today may bring us great pain tomorrow. And, that’s the deal.

The Cold War on Love

Research reveals we spend over $300,000 in a lifetime maintaining our desire to be healthy, and even a Textingmuch greater amount on our desire to be financially secure.

Others are financially ruined and physically bankrupted from seeking love in all the wrong places. Jesus said love is the greatest of all wants and needs. Mother Teresa related that there is no greater deprivation in the world today than the lack of love.

We are in a cold war, attacking the very existence of meaningful, love relationships. We fear nuclear war, poverty, drugs, or losing patriotism. But, we should more concerned about the desire to love God, family, and one another.

Our children and grandchildren are growing up in an era of technology where personal and social contact with friends and family is no longer needed (and sometimes not even wanted).  Text messaging, emails, Facebook, and Twitter may be good in moderation, but they should not exclude personal communication that fosters emotional connections with family and loved ones.

Those things that we want most, like health, riches, honor and love, are found in Wisdom and in the Fear of the Lord according to Solomon in Proverbs 3. He did not say if you text 500 messages a day, twitter a little, put a few family photos on facebook, forward an email to 10 people, and request one back to know you are loved. Still doubting? Ask for a hit on the like button at the bottom of the web site. Texting but Still AloneYou are now technically liked/loved. Have a blessed mechanical, anti-social day.

There is a place and time for modern technology, but it should not replace a loved one’s voice, nor should technical support replace loving personal support. It wasn’t so long ago that we sat in a theater and heard those four beautiful words “ET phone home” – today the script would read “ET text home”.   Technical communication eliminates most emotions, saves time, and personal involvement. Are we becoming the coldest generation in the history of the world? Some Neurologists say personal interaction stimulates parts in the brain while a lack of personal interaction causes some shrinkage in brain activity.

The more technical and less personal we become, the more we run the risk of deadening the soul to a desire to love or be loved. When we always choose technical over personal communication with a loved one, we promote the cold war on the greatest gift of all – the gift of love. Call home, or text home?   Your choice!

Daily Forgiveness

In our Lord’s Prayer, sandwiched between asking for daily bread and requesting to be delivered from evil, is the plea for forgiveness. While struggling with a continual need to forgive someone, I asked God to give me wisdom. One day when quoting the Lord’s Prayer, I became aware, for the first time, that forgiveness was to be as much a part of my life as eating my daily bread. I also realized that on the other side of forgiveness, I could avoid falling into the temptations of revenge, bitterness, anger, and resentment. It was one of those aha moments for me. They say when you have an aha moment, three places in the brain light up. And, you are much more likely to respond to that wisdom than you would in just reading or hearing it. Once I accepted the fact that forgiving was to be as much a part of my life as eating was on a daily basis, forgiveness no longer became a dramatic, surprising or upsetting command from the Lord.

Accepting the act of forgiving as a daily call of God on your life allows for God’s continual forgiveness to flow on your behalf.

Three things to note in accepting the call to forgive:

(1.) Forgiveness does not contradict God’s justice. Justice is God’s business and will be done in His way and time.

(2.) Forgiveness is not foolishness. We do not subject ourselves to be victimized or abused. And, we must learn from our mistakes and not repeat them.

(3.) Forgiveness does not deny the truth. Wrong is wrong, and sin is sin. We do not deny the act or minimize the harm inflicted. Confrontation when needed must be rendered with truth and grace. Truth that is aware of all that has been, Grace that forgives all the wrongs and the sins. The Bible says truth sets us free.

The truth: receiving His daily bread, giving forgiveness, avoiding temptation and evil are all in a day’s Divine Calling. It is my prayer that as you read and meditate on this beautiful prayer the Lord gave to all of us, you will have your own aha moment and experience the joy and peace of mind that only comes from accepting the call of daily forgiving.

Our Father which art in Heaven, Hallowed be Thy name. Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done in earth, as it is in Heaven. Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil: For Thine is Kingdom, and the Power, and the Glory, forever. Amen. Matt. 6:9-13

The Boy/Girl Chose Safety – The Man/Woman Chose to Serve

This month we celebrate Veterans day! To all our Veterans and to all who serve, we thank you because you are the reason America is free today. Our hearts burst with pride and thanksgiving for you. So many young boys and girls, just out of high school, are now risking their lives every day to protect our freedom.

I remember well the day my son, David, joined the Air Force. After finishing basics, parents are invited to watch in their graduation ceremony. Words can never describe how proud I was that day watching my son, and all the other men and women, marching to the beat of those military drums there in San Antonio. How do I describe that moment? It was like stepping into another world as we watched our sons and daughters shed their adolescent cocoons. It was a true metamorphosis, taking place right before our eyes. We sat there in awe seeing the transition of our children emerging from the protected parental cocoon into trained brave men and women who now belong to United States Armed Forces. Wow! It was truly a breath taking moment. My son, who for so many years had chosen safety, now, along with so many other young men and women, now choose to serve.

God bless them all, and God bless our great country – America.

The Brain, Producer of my Life Script

Mark Twain said, “Life does not consist mainly, or even largely of facts and happenings. It consists mainly of the storm of thoughts flowing through ones head.” Think about it.   He is saying this 3 lb. organ sitting on top of the neck where 100 billion neurons and trillions of dendrites are being activated by flowing chemicals — chemicals that are activated by a person’s words, thoughts, and actions are writing the script for your life.

So we could say, the way we see ourselves as an adult is largely influenced by the words and the things we have experienced growing up.   If there was verbal abuse growing up, we would probably have a brain filled with false messages. These false messages create a poor image of ourselves that leave us with little or no confidence in our abilities.

If it were possible to have a brain transplant when we became an adult, we might luck out and get a more healthy brain. One that told us the truth, that God loves us more than we can ever imagine, and “that we are fearfully and wonderfully made.” Prov. 139.   Our confidence would soar, and we would see ourselves as God sees us and not through the false messages told to us, or ones we repeated and believed as a result of some painful experience.   Since we can’t do a brain transplant, and since we don’t want to live with lies and negative thoughts the rest of our life, we must do a word transplant.

The brain is an organ just like the heart, and the brain’s function is to record what it sees and hears. It does not know a truth from a lie, so as a child, it will record and believe what it is told.   The good news is that through the help of God, and yes, a good counselor or coach, the brain can be set free.   The first step is to recognize the need.   The second step is to make a commitment to renew the mind.   It is not easy to replace messages that have been engraved deeply in the brain for years. The third step is to get into a Church that teaches the Bible, and allow your brain to soak up the truth of who you really are and what you were created for.

Twain was right, life can consist of a storm of thoughts running through ones head. But, life can also consist of a rainbow of renewed thoughts running through one’s healthy mind, bringing peace after the storm.

True Fulfillment For A Woman

When God made the first woman, Eve, He called her Adam’s helpmate. He made her with a desire to be a helper to Adam.   And every woman from that day on has a desire and even a need to be a helper and a giver. We find great pleasure and satisfaction knowing we are wanted, needed, desired and loved.   These four needs must be rooted and motivated toward a woman in God’s love; otherwise, a woman can be easily used and abused by the same four needs.

Love is the greatest motivator for a woman.   God’s love, flowing toward a woman, whether it is from a husband, a boyfriend, a child, a parent, an employer, a friend, or a life coach will influence and drive a woman to accomplish the impossible. When you touch that part of a woman, you touch the heart of God, and the very meaning and purpose of her existence in this world.

Why does a woman leave her family and run off with a lover, why does a girl lose her virginity in her early teens, why does a woman stay in an abusive relationship, why does a woman seek drugs, why does a woman give and give of herself and come up so empty inside? In each case, the cause lies in either being rejected or us rejecting.  Rejection is a lonely and terrible humiliating feeling – a feeling that we were never created to experience. It is humbling to admit what we have done because of feelings and needs. Some of us were drawn into sin desiring to fulfill those needs. We must never be ashamed of the desire; it is not the needs that are sinful. God tucked those beautiful needs into a woman’s heart, and they are not to be ignored or rejected but they are to be recognized and embraced.

It is our responsibility as women to guard them, and not allow anyone to abuse or take advantage of them. We do this by following the Word of God, living in obedience to Him in our desires, and in setting healthy boundaries.

I love Proverb 4:23 that says, “Above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.” A wellspring is a source of a continuous supply for your life. True fulfillment for a woman – a continuous supply of being wanted, needed, desired and loved by a people filled with God’s love.

Train & Change Your Brain

C. S. Lewis was told by one of his students, “we read to know that we are not alone.”

There is nothing better than sitting down, with no interruptions, and losing yourself in a book.   I love motivational books. You read about people who struggle with the same weaknesses as yourself, and you realize you are not the only one needing to make some major changes.   If you want a book that will change your way of thinking and grow you some happy feet, think about reading Shawn Achor’s book “the Happiness Advantage.” Let me share something I read in his book that is changing my life.   He talks about training your brain to focus on the positive, and how to make this happen.   He says when your brain scans for the positive; you profit from happiness, gratitude, and optimism.   You sleep better, you are aware of opportunities available to you, you are happier, more forgiving, more creative, experience fewer headaches and less stressful.   He throws out challenges that will help to train the brain to think positive.  One suggestion that really spoke to me was to write down, or tell someone three good things that happened to you today. This forces the brain to scan the last 24 hours for potential positives.

The brain is an amazing organ — An organ that you have the opportunity to train and change.  It is worth your time and your effort, and it will bring you amazing results.  Relax, and lose yourself in this great book. Practice the principles; and remember, we read to know we are not alone. We all could use some positive brain training.

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